Yourself. You are going to be with YOU 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. For life. You can’t shut you up. You can try, but trust me, it won’t happen. If you happen to find a method that doesn’t involve bath salts or any other hardcore drug – please share. I’m not trying to eat people.
The best advice I can give is to learn to love you. You are the only one that can truly get why you do and think the way you do. Over the many years of life that I have been through, I have given countless people advice, listened to problems, cried, laughed, cried some more, argued points, tried not to hate people for mistakes they’ve made, tried not to hate myself, cried ALOT, laughed some more, found the good in sticky situations, cheered on, forgave, and all while trying to take my own advice when it came to my problems.
I am definitely not saint Mary – but who is? I’ve done things in life to where I have regretted it immediately – or regretted it a few months down the road. But it’s all about finding yourself and where you are suppose to be. Listen, I have no clue where I am suppose to be at this point in my life. If my 16-year-old self was correct – I would have some corporate job, with my sexy foreign husband, and baby #2 on the way. And an Australian Shepard. Despite my totally jacked up life prediction, I often find myself not minding where I have ended up. I have taken more time to truly learn more about myself and what I ultimately want. Not just what 16-year-old Rachel wanted. That girl was delusional.
Loving you is hard. There have been plenty of times where I really needed to slap myself. Not just figuratively speaking either. I have actually attempted to before, but obviously it wasn’t shocking like a random slap would be, because well duh. I’ve had to give myself a hardcore reality check a few times. a “Coming to Jesus” moment if you will. Those are tough moments, but good ones! It’s like your eyes finally open and you’ve stepped off that unicorn you were mounted up on. Far too often I have seen people close to me go through things in their life where they question their worthiness. Let me tell you something, you are your worst critic and your worst enemy – but you are your best game changer. Learn to change you for the best.
With that being said, go do it. You will be surprised at what you are capable of afterwards.